I was speaking with one of my dearest friends yesterday, who just happens to be over eighty, and she said a statement which could not have summed up my string of thoughts better: Everyone wants to be grown. Everyone wants to be the boss. No one wants to listen.
I thought to myself, you ain’t never lied about that. I despise being in position of authority over adults. Why? Because adults have come to believe that being of a certain age entitles them to never have to learn a lesson ever again. Adults believe that age accounts for intelligence and know how, and that they are always at liberty to question any and all authority.
I am experiencing only my second time being a supervisor and for the second time in my life, I hate it. I have always worked better alone, because I appreciate the quiet, I welcome the solitude of the company of none, especially in matters of completing an important task or project. Yet when you couple a loner with know it all adults, it can create an energy like no other.
So here are some strategies I am adopting for the next month, as a trial basis to a new way of life.
1. Meditate before leaving home; I’ve even found a meditating station on my internet radio.
2. Learn to explain all instructions thoroughly and provide them in writing; I have to learn everyone receives information differently. In taking the time to effectively supervise, I in turn lower my stress levels.
3. Accept the fact that confrontations are a part of the role. It is time to embrace them as a way to finally clear the tension; whether your co workers know they piss you off to no end or not. Confrontations are the perfect time to be honest about how you feel about their work performance. All with respect and tact no less.
4. Leave work problems on your work desk. Do not. I repeat Do Not take work home with you. Your anger and frustration becomes an ant bed of irritation…and if others aren’t careful or aware, they could step into a mine trap. Don’t explode on the ones you love.
5. Pray for a successful and productive day for not only yourself, but for your co workers and the population you service. Ensure you speak positively into the workday before you begin. This way, your spirit can remind you of your request when you feel your temper rising.
6. Talk yourself off the ledge of “going off.” Sometimes before I respond to a co-worker, I have to tell myself to be mindful of my tone and my language. Pick a smile over a frown and a soft, steady tone over one filled with venom.
We have to be strong-minded enough to disengage from moments of pettiness. A lot of times, people will get off your back, when you no longer allow them the opportunity to get you all worked up. So shoulders back, head up and one foot in front of the other. Take the time to invest in your spiritual so when the attacks come to hit you with stress and frustration, you are prepared to win.
Have an awesome Peace of Mind today.