I was sitting watching the special of a religious reality program and my spirit brought this thought to mind:
When you judge others, you bring the scrutiny back to you.
Then my next natural thought to my spirit was; how so?
And my spirit answered back, the things that you do, which you are self conscious about, the things you do to cover the scent of your decisions, is a direct result of you judging others for being transparent about theirs.
If someone were to openly discuss their displeasure about your lifestyle and your choices, could you handle it or would you be condemned/shamed by their words?
If someone were to pick up your scent, what would they “smell”? How much would what they “smelled” tell them about you, that they did not sense before?
Judging others is a sign of weakness and jealousy; we judge those who have accepted who they are, where they are, and because we would not have the strength to walk their path, we cast our narrow minded thoughts and opinions upon that person. We speak words of ill manner towards their mindset and situation, rather than to uplift them from their mess and despair.
As much perfume and soap and lotions I apply to me, there are some scents, cosmetics cannot mask. And for those things about me which are not appealing to the senses, I am thankful for those who do not find it robbery to love me despite my “smell.”
Really self evaluate yourself, what are you not transparent about, but you long to be, so that you feel free? What are you afraid for others to know? When you are bound in fear and secrecy, you are holding yourself captive to self judgement, which in my personal experience, is the worse kind of judgement.
Who is gonna love you if you don’t free yourself to love you?
You cannot appreciate the honesty of someone else, until you begin to accept it from yourself.
If you want to change someone, change you. Commit yourself to what you need to do for you and watch it happen.
Be strong in truth, not judgement, for it comes to weaken our mindset, so we forget that we are ever evolving in this life; trials and tribulations will come to test us, truth will help us to prevail, not judgement, which seeks to shame us into despair and hopelessness and repetitive behavior of shame.
So, if you pick up a scent from someone, try a little patience, try a little understanding, try being motivating and nurturing. Prayer works too.
Just don’t judge.
It will come back to weaken you.