encouragement

Motivation for Perspective: Go Getter Monday

The more intentional we become with our goals, the more we begin to appreciate what we have endured to gain that clarity.

You don’t know what you need, until you’ve had what you didn’t want.

You don’t know where you need to be, until you’ve been somewhere you don’t want to be.

Think about your trials and smile at how after all of those thoughts of quitting on yourself, you survived and came out stronger, wiser and faith-equipped.

Growth is painful, but rewarding.

Speak into existence and know that what comes next, will produce great fruits.

Your intention stems from your gratefulness…activate your positivity.

Go Getter Edition: Go Mode

If we spent more time pressing towards our purpose.
We’d have less time to stress over our situations.

Change your mindset.
Change your world.

Make A Plan.
Take Action.
Set Up Shop.

Flyy Girl Friday Feature: Chrissie

Hello readers and welcome back for another edition of

Flyy Girl Friday Feature!

Today focuses on a lady who is all about the pretty positivity!

Step into a world of good vibes and warm smiles.

Ladies and Gentlemen welcome

Chrissie

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Hi! I am Chrissie, but my friends call me Chris for short. I was born and raised in North Carolina, but currently residing in Maryland, outside of Baltimore.

Please tell us about your blog, ForeverPretty08:

My site is www.ForeverPretty08.com, and it is pretty much about everything that comes to mind that I am passionate about. I love fashion, beauty, traveling, cooking, discussing motherhood, fitness, natural hair care, relationships & marriage and God. You can find a post about those things and more! One thing I am learning, is to speak truth and light to others, so all of my posts, whether it is a product review or an inspirational post, I promise to be honest and real with everyone. I also have a YouTube channel, where I post in video form. My channel is ForeverPretty08.

Why did you begin blogging?

I actually started blogging back in 2000, during my 9th grade year. I didn’t have close friends or anyone who I could talk with regarding what was on my mind. That blog was my outlet to sharing my thoughts.  Now that blogging has become so popular, and more people are turning to blogging as a means of communication, I hope my thoughts can touch someone who may be going through or experiencing the same thoughts or things as me.ChrissieW1

What motivates you to dedicate time to blogging?

I think what motivates me is knowing that I have the time and ability to do it full-time now. I am a Stay At Home Mom and when my child is asleep in the day or night, I go to my computer to write and improve my blog. Before when I was working, in school, traveling and doing everything else, I didn’t have much time to blog or take it seriously. Now that I have more time, I am able to write and improve my blog. I believe it is what I have been called to do.

Furthermore, I hope to connect and collaborate with people and businesses down the line, once my blog becomes famous lol!

In one year, what do you hope manifests from your blogging?

Well, besides connecting and collaborating, I want to meet others who like me, enjoy blogging because it is something our hearts desire! Also, I would like to increase my subscriber base. I am praying that will change this year.

Name two of your favorite bloggers you follow:

I love Shirley B. Eniang of Shirley’s Wardrobe. She is a UK-based beauty blogger and she is AMAZING! Y’all need to check her out. I also like Heather Lindsey’s blog. She takes her walk with Jesus serious and I admire her for that; because a lot of us are influenced by worldly things, that we miss the blessings and new life we could have or live, if we were living for Christ. Her testimony is so inspirational and I can relate in so many ways. She helped me get through my single stage and has helped me become closer to Christ. Y’all should check her out as well!

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What legacy do you want to leave behind for others to know about you?

I hope that my blog can help and inspire someone in some way. Whether it be from my favorite lipstick, to helping you get through a life struggle. I hope that something I post may be a light to someone who may be misguided, misinformed or simply unaware. I am human like everyone else, so I can relate to a lot of things in life. I know my readers will be inspired and hopefully I will be someone’s “Friend in their head.”

Flyy Girl Friday Feature: Miss Jill Scott

Flyy Girl Friday is back for the second  feature and you guys are in for a special treat.

This week’s Flyy Girl is none other than

Miss Jill Scott

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Ms. Jill Scott

Jill is a dope lyricist, songstress, poet, actor, mother and possessor of a loving and shining spirit. She came onto the music scene with a Roots collab back in 1999, before releasing her debut album Who is Jill Scott? Words and Sounds in 2000, and has successfully released six follow up albums since her debut. Miss Scott has also made the transition into films quite smoothly, spreading her mass appeal to all areas of expressive art. She completed a run of the Broadway play hit Rent, during a Canadian tour, just before releasing her debut album. Miss Scott is so many things to me for so many reasons, but most notably, she carries herself in the magnitude of a righteous Queen and speaks to heal and to help us to overstand the power we each possess. May her legacy live on beyond this world.

Ladies and Gentlemen, give it up for Miss Jill Scott.

Stay Focused…They Will Follow….They Always Do

To say that I am excited about becoming a first time business owner is an understatement, so imagine my total surprise when I receive a less than celebratory response from my peers and loved ones…I know you aren’t suppose to care whether or not someone else finds your accomplishments appealing, yes, in theory that seems to be okay to believe, but in reality, I want a big deal cheer.

Why does the over exaggerated gestures become so special occasion reserved once we reach a certain age? Is it now the norm’ to say, “You don’t get a pat on your back to do what you are supposed to do?” But if that were the case, wouldn’t more people be business owners? In fact, more people would risk a failure, just for the sake of an opportunity to succeed. So, why aren’t more people entrepreneurs?

When it comes to the world of “know it alls,” why aren’t more applying all of what they know?

I admire people who are able to take a craft or skill set they love and turn it into a profit, without destroying their love for what they do. When I go to certain shops or read articles about business owners who have been entrepreneurs for 10+ years, I think, I am so glad it is possible.

Faith, is the substance of things hoped for, and the evidence of things not seen (Hebrews 11:1) Yet, I am thankful for examples of what having faith will produce, because it is times when I share my news with my friends and with my loved ones, and I do not receive the feedback I believe I should receive, I think about those who have gone before me when starting out on the journey of being a successful business owner.

And I stop pitying myself and I think to myself. And I speak to myself, mentally and sometimes a loud and I remind myself of how far I have come in such a short period of time, and I find the energy to move forward in my craft, in my skill set.

Being a Go-Getter is more than a saying to me; it is my life. Every day I will constantly remind myself of how much more creative I can be and how far I am willing to push myself to create the legacy I want to live and pay forward.

The point is this: If you are waiting for the cheers from the crowd to keep your energy up while you run this race, honey child, I have news for you: get ready to pass out. People are not assigned the same faith as you for your situation, which is something you have to walk in alone…and that is okay. But do not give up. Keep your head focused on the cause and they will follow…they always do.

Where Are You Going

Communicate or disintegrate.

Participate or Contemplate.

Prepare or Want.

Do or Dream.

Improve or Patch-Up.

Accountable or Unreliable.

Go-Getter or User.

Whatever you choose, is solely up to you, but don’t choose wisely and watch where it will lead you.

The words you speak to yourself will manifest within you. It will drive you to make the choices which will later speak of you.

The ability to choose wisdom in the whirlwind of a storm, makes it easier to enjoy those moments of calm.

Your life is awaiting on you to choose.

Now, what will you do….

 

Imitation of A Relationship

Let me first start by saying, by no means am I an expert on relationships, nor how the human mind works. I am however an observer and ex offender of the behavior being discussed.

Women: there is so much to be said for our desires to be a part of a committed union. I truly believe it is a fundamental piece of our existence, to connect, build and grow. We enjoy the sense of security that comes with being in a real relationship, all the trimmings of commitment. So why are so many of us settling for scraps?

I am witnessing woman across various age brackets, allowing men to have “my man” privileges, without the mutual commitment of a real relationship. I’m not against having a friend or friends, but at what point do you stop lying to yourself about what you want? When do you begin to look outside of potential, and face what it is?

Let me lead by example. About six years ago, I was in a situationship. I befriended a gentleman and we spent a great deal of our time together. We spoke on the phone every single day, beginning at six in the morning. We went to comedy clubs, birthday parties, family gatherings (only my family) and hung out with friends (some mutual otherwise, my friends only). Months went by and we never established what we were to one another, although the phrase “I love you” was spoken freely and often. Yet, when I finally got the nerve to ask for what I wanted, it wasn’t what he wanted. And I allowed myself to continue the situationship, simply  because I had high hopes that he would change his mind, Hoping he would realize how good our chemistry was together and how good of a woman I was for him.

But the more I continued to allow the situation to carry on, the more pain I put myself in. I had no right to expectations. I had no right to relationship benefits, although I was experiencing a relationship. Being too afraid to rock the boat of comfort and convenience, I went along with it, until one day I had enough. I told him, if a friendship was all he wanted, then I had to reevaluate my stance with him. A lot of things ended; me cooking for him, letting him use my car, picking him up from work, inviting him to family outings, double dates, the 20+ phone calls and texts all stopped. Once I took my power back, he was no longer interested in coming around.

What I am saying is this: why are we subjecting ourselves to situationships and expecting relationship benefits? Are we that desperate for a man that we are wiling to forfeit our desires, simply to keep someone in our lives?

While we would like to think not, the answer is yes. Yes, I am willing to subject myself to pain and disappointment in order to get a man and keep him. I willing to forfeit wanting to be the affection of a man who wants me, for one who looks good. I am willing to front to be pacified.

My Queens, I want each of you to experience a relationship, a real relationship, that causes you to be nurtured and loved. A relationship where you are wanted, needed and belong. I no longer want you seeking potential in a place of uncertainty. If you have been involved with a man for over six months and there is still no commitment, why are you still putting eggs in that basket? Why is two months long enough to have sex, but not long enough to commit?

 

What are we really saying when we make these types of choices? If you know what you want, why are you rearranging your checklist to fit someone else’s agenda? If you want to be a wife, say so! If you want a family, say so! If you want to be a King’s Queen, say so!

Don’t continue to participate in situationships expecting relationship benefits. It is not for you boo. He does not owe you the commitment of consideration, and why should he? You never asked for it, and if you did, you allowed him to steer you away from your desires.

 

This article is not to bash anyone, but to help someone, see their worth and fight for what they desire. When you settle for less than what you deserve, it will convict you. Everything you do to make it what it is not, will fail. It takes two honey. At the end of the day, if he is not giving you a commitment, reevaluate and move on.

Allow yourself to be happy by spending time with eligible bachelors (leave folks boyfriends/husbands alone) who share your desires. Spend time with people who court you for relationship reasons, not sex reasons. Because if all you are looking for is the physical, fine. But, don’t start talking that “where are we going talk” a month or so after ya’ll have been having sex.

Recognize the connection. Call it what it is. Take off the blinders, put away the fantasies. Be a big girl and say what you want. If he isn’t with the program, don’t put another thoughtful effort into it. Let it be.

You will get what you expect, you just have to put it out there. Live it. Think it. Be it. Your authentic one will come.