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Motivation for Perspective: Go Getter Monday

You can’t get away from the fundamentals.

Building a support system has to be mutually beneficial; therefore you have to give as much as you stand to receive.

There is no act too small. You can find the best one to fit any occasion.

Maya was and still is right, “people may forget what you do for them, but they don’t forget how you make them feel.”

“Aint no way around it”

-Future

Put your hands forth in front of you, what will you give today?

I look forward to hearing your stories! Leave a comment below with what you will commit to giving today in your relationships with others.

For me: Appreciation of time.

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Motivation for Perspective:Go Getter Monday 

Sometimes when you feel like the water is steadily creeping above your head and you may be in too deep, an acknowledging word from within your support system can be the very lifeline you need.

Being hard on ourselves can blind us to the progress we’ve made and the many changes and challenges we’ve overcome.

Take time to celebrate the journey thus far, the rest will surely come.

Motivation for Perspective: Go Getter Monday

In all our efforts to go after what desire, we cannot forget to stop and smell the roses.

Enjoy the moments of family, friends and fellowship.
Make sure that your connections go deeper than securing a new connect.
Make it meaningful.
Make it worth your time.
Because you’re growing and you need people in your life who truly care about you and show it through action.
Enjoy those people.
Take the time to spend time together.
We all need those moments.

Make A Plan
Take Action
Set Up Shop
Go Get It

Motivation for Perspective: Go Getter Monday

Enjoyment is just as important to the biggest picture as the work it takes to bring it to life.
Who we have in our lives matters a great deal towards the wealth of our experiences.
The love we exchange helps to shape us, naturally, into who we are to become.
And the energy we create with will dictate the tone of our legacy.

It may all be relative, but it still translates.

Love the life you live. And if you aren’t loving  life, what are you willing to do and change to begin to loving it?

Make A Plan
Take Action
Set Up Shop

Go Get It!

Short Story: Difficult to Satisfy

Hi my peeps! I hope you are enjoying your Wednesday. Earlier this year I shared that I am embarking upon the journey of writing my first book and sometimes I come across characters who do not necessarily fit the particular book I am writing, but I still like to give them the opportunity to be known. If you could be so gracious as to leave a comment, like or share about the following, I would most appreciate it. I am always looking to grow in my writing, so do not be afraid to tell me what you think.

Peace and Blessings!

 

One. Two. Three. She picks up the phone, clicks settings and scrolls down to the “blocked calls” finds his number and swipes left to call.

It is officially his birthday. She had waited for him to reach out to her and invite her to whatever he had going on, he was known for throwing a fabulous party. Plenty to eat and drink and the music was always on point. The phone buzzed in her ear as it rang.

She started to hang up on the fourth ring, but Clinton’s voice came over the receiver. Hello? Who is this?

Kerra did a quick look at the phone as she pulled it away from her ear to check that she had in fact called Clinton. She had. His voice was deeper and heavier than she expected

Clint, its Kerra. I wasn’t expecting to catch you asleep, its kinda early for you isn’t it? She knew she had taken a chance calling him after almost a year and a half of no contact. So many things had changed in that time period. She had thought at the time there was more out there for her….now she wasn’t so sure.

His intense and steady silence made small beads of sweat drip down the small of her back. All of a sudden she felt hot and nervous.

Clinton? She whispered into the phone.

I’m here. I’m just, just trying to get my barings together. I mean, I wasn’t expecting to hear…this is a surprise. He finished.

Listen, I won’t keep you long. I remembered today is your birthday and I , I wanted to be the first to wish you a special one. She sighed deeply, And I am not sure if you know, but Dorien and I..

I know about you and D. Kerra, it’s late and I have a lot to do later on for the party. If you’d like, I can send over and evite and maybe you and Carla can swing through later?

It was a start, she would take it. Yeah, I would like that. Maybe once everything calms down, we can talk?

Yeah, maybe we can. Clinton breathed easily back into the phone. It’s good to hear your voice Kerra. Is the email the same?

Yes, it is.

Cool. I will send it over shortly.

Goodnight.

Goodnight.

Kerra watched the screen fade to black as she placed her phone back on its charger before laying back against the cool satin pillows stacked strategically across the top of her bed. She focused her thoughts on the raindrops that clung to the large floor to ceiling windows of her condo, and then watched as the drops slid slowly downward.

She couldn’t help but wonder if she were like those raindrops. Clinging to things and people who could not hold on to her, allowing her to fall downward to her demise. She sighed deeply. But not Clinton, never Clinton. He had always been someone real she could go to, no matter what.

Even after she broke his heart and refused his proposal of them moving beyond just being friends; he was still there, he never wavered. Even after she told him she was not ready for a relationship, however; two weeks later had begun a serious romance with Dorien; he gave her his blessing.

Kerra didn’t know if she were coming back to Clinton because she needed him to validate her, or she needed him to love her. Either way, she knew she needed his essence again; the kind of essence that assured her she could step out and fly.

She just hoped that had not changed.

She hoped.

 

HeyGirlHey!!! Poll of the Day

Okay, we had the discussion about men and women being just friends, now let us have the discussion about can we remain friends once we fall in love?

I hear men saying that they could not date a woman who’s best friend is a guy; most men that I have spoken with, believe it is not the woman they do not trust, it is the man.

Apparently men seem to think men only want one thing….le panties.

And guys, I shall not overlook you. I know women who are non too pleased with their man having a best girl friend…they wanna pull a coup and thrust her out the picture.

In all situations, are we wrong for thinking men only have male friends and women only have female friends? And if you say yes, then how does one handle their spouse being cool with a lot of people who are the opposite sex?

Do we befriend them as well or trust that it is just friendship?

I have my own opinions, but I’d much rather hear and read yours! Tell me what you think, let’s discuss.

 

Poll Alert! Are Your Friends Trustworthy Emergency Contacts

Hey Girl Hey!!! wants to know, What about your friends?

In a time when the world is moving so fast, unfortunately, things can happen in a matter of moments.

And with so many of us far away from home and our love ones, who are we to depend on in our times of need or emergency?

So today, we focus on our friends. What kinds of support systems are we building to sustain us in our lives?

Drop your opinion on the poll below and leave a comment as well! Like and share!

 

I.C.E. Call My Mama

I am not sure if you are familiar with the acronym, I.C.E, but it stands for “in case of an emergency.” The other day as I was getting dressed,  I noticed my college id card I carry with me when I go walking around my complex. I mean God forbid something to happen to me while I am out exercising, but I carry the card to identify me and I wrote my mother as my point of contact.

Keep in mind, my mother lives in another state, but truly I would want her to be the person notified, because I know she will know what to do. But then, I begin to feel a bit weird about the fact I have family and friends close by, but I would choose to have my mother, who is hundreds of miles away, to be my safety net person.

 Mom

It made me think about that concept and what does that mean to me. I am surrounded by family and friends, yet I do not trust them to function properly in my time of need. Very interesting concept…it points me in a few directions, but the most prominent ones are; am I untrusting or is my circle untrustworthy?

 

But if my circle is untrustworthy…its only because I am untrusting. I don’t expect trust.

 

And I can admit, I do not trust easily. I find that it is easier to allow people to be themselves, then to place false hope in them, expecting them to function in the same manner of consideration as I do for them. It is with this mentality, I have become extremely choosy with whom I have certain conversations, be it deep or merely surface level, in the end, it all matters.

Because it is human nature for people to become spiteful and bitter and vindictive. And when this occurs, secrets, loyalty and trust become foreign actions and anger becomes a new friend. Whatever can be remembered, will come up…and then what do we have left? Nothing, I say.

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With my trust, I need to know that who I am is not a problem for you, because if it is, we must change how we interact. Because while I am given you genuine pieces of me, you are silently judging them all. Analyzing my gift of friendship, for why it is not what you want it to be.

And as I get older, I find that I am having to have these types of conversations with new people I meet. It is not that I am being pessimistic  about meeting people, it is just that I am quicker to observe, than I am to jump in and make myself known. Everybody does not need to know me and I don’t need to know everybody.

My willingness to be accepted has been superseded by my desire to change things I can not accept. And being in situations with people who have shown themselves to be untrustworthy, is what I can not accept, so I have decided to change that.

Who and what we cling to, could be the detriment of us or the positive turning point for us. Who can you call on in case of an emergency? Is your circle capable of handling that responsibility? How are the relationships we are building, actually supporting us?

Everyday that I am blessed to move forward in life, I am always looking around to see whose moving forward with me. I guess, that is what I need to base my trust off; the people who are actually making an effort to meet me halfway. Now, that doesn’t mean I am gonna change my I.C.E., however, it means that I need to connect my circle. Whoever is in it, needs to know each other.

 

I can trust that.

New HeyGirlHey Feature: Flyy Girl Fridays

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Hi Ladies and Gentlemen!

HeyGirlHey!!! is introducing a new feature entitled Flyy Girl Friday.

Starting September 5, 2014 each Friday a Flyy Girl will be featured on the site along with a brief write up of why she is considered a Flyy Girl

Whether it is your sister, mother, aunt, cousin, best friend, girlfriend, god-sister, co worker…send in a photo and tell why you think she should be the week’s Flyy Girl Friday Feature.

Everyone has the chance to be featured, so make sure you nominate your friends and family, make their day by showing them some love and let them know just how flyy you know they are.

Please email photo, your name and name of nominated person, along with a brief  description of why you think they are Flyy Girl-worthy.

Please also add your twitter or instagram id so I can tag you in the postings.

missprimba@gmail.com

Send in your nominations early, so you have a better chance of having your Flyy Girl featured!

Peace and Blessings

Commitment: This Will Change Your Perspective

com·mit·ment
kəˈmitmənt/
noun
  1. 1.
    the state or quality of being dedicated to a cause, activity, etc.
    “the company’s commitment to quality”
  2. 2.
    an engagement or obligation that restricts freedom of action.
    “business commitments”

Earlier this morning I began to watch videos on Youtube, due to my boycott on cable…long story.

But in watching a couple of Oprah episodes, I came across a T D Jakes sermon on Commitment. I clicked the link out of curiosity and was blown away by the truth he was serving up. The things he spoke on regarding commitment hit home hard. It made me re-evaluate my position with commitment and how I am with my goals and aspirations. And also my commitments with God, my family and my friends.

You don’t have to be a religious person to appreciate this message, only someone who looks to evaluate what you can do to make better decisions in your life.

Take the time to watch. I promise, you will be enlightened.

Peace and Blessings.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J1-ybyUoJUI

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wn-uDOux0zU