I know it’s been a while since I opened my bright idea mouth and shared the news to expand the flow of HEY GIRL HEY!!! And while I’m still toiling over ideas, I honestly haven’t written down a committed P.O.V. on it…
Truth. Reading it sounds harsh, but it’s still my truth. Up to me to change it. In the meantime I am continuing to be social both off and online….Which leads me to my story.
Someone on my IG yesterday posted a video that still has me like,”what in thee *insert what you like* did I just witness?!?!
I believe myself to be pretty open minded, just because I don’t subscribe to something someone else does, does not mean I don’t love them; however I can be quite prudish😇.
And what I witnessed yesterday is one of those things where I’m like, where do we draw the moral line on social media?
I asked a question via my personal social media some months ago; Morals: The fear of judgement and asked if it were true or false. People gave their answer but no explanation…guess I should have prompted them. *noted*
Then what is the purpose of morals if on one hand what’s appropriate to share to others isn’t the same for the next person who receives it?
When do we begin to reasonably modify our entertainment for the, dare I say, innocence of others?
Because believe it or not, there actually a couple of a lotta things I can do without seeing ever in life.
However, isn’t that the slippery slope of being social? You’re bound to bump into a “was not expecting that at all” moment. May it not be as traumatic as the one I am currently attempting to rid my thoughts of. 😯😕
Slow down honey.
If he is the one, allow him to show you that he is. That doesn’t mean he has to prove himself, but show who he is. And if he is not?
Well, there lies the power of choice.
If you are content, then you are content. But if you are not?
Then there lies the power of choice yet again!
If you are not content, then I hope you take the necessary steps to rectify the situation; whatever that may look like for you.
But I don’t want my ladies running themselves ragged for what they deserve.
By attracting what we deserve and distancing ourselves from what we do not; I truly believe we can find ourselves in the right place at the right time in making that connection with the one who will understand you and encourage you and nurture you.
I believe he exists for me.
What about you?
Here’s to attracting a light of our very own, from the inside out.
When you are a child, it’s a no brainer who your friends are; they are the ones who play with you everyday on the playground at school, or around the neighborhood at home. But as we get older, the lines have a tendency to become misconstrued, fuzzy, vague….invisible. To make things clearer, I am speaking in terms of men and women being just friends, solely, strictly, friends.
Is that possible?
First off, is this relationship plutonic and by platonic, I mean no sexual verbal or physical interaction! So there has been no slip up with conversation, no creepin’ off at parties where the two of you end up alone, no prolonged hugging…no kissing. I bet there are a lot of you thinking hard…..lol keep it real, keep it 100!
And there was a time when hanging out with your boyfriend or girlfriend around your other friends was acceptable, now that we are older, it seems the rules have changed. I personally have come into contact with guys who prefer their girlfriend not to have male friends. Some of the reasons simply boiled down to the fact that the friend has a penis, so he simply cannot be trusted.
What are some of us learning as children growing up, that some of us aren’t, regarding friendships with the opposite sex?
For instance, my boyfriend of 3 years is not cool with the me having male friends, even though I have known them before he and I became a couple. He has admitted that he himself, has never had a just friends relationship with women. I find that to be so unfortunate for him.
I have learned a lot about the psyche of men thru my male friends advice, plus I am the type of person to operate within boundaries, but if I am feeling a man, I am sure to let him know that I am definitely interested. And although I have been rejected or disappointed as I like to say it, I didn’t have any regrets about stating the tone of my intentions.
But I gather that life has to be pretty one-sided, if one never tries to develop a relationship with the opposite sex, outside of the sexual. Is there something wrong with a man and a woman wanting to befriend each other, even when they are in committed relationships?
Again, I have personally watched married men and women engage in some flirtatious activity with friends or co workers and thought to myself, if their spouse were here, would this behavior be appropriate in their eyes…but sometimes what looks like one thing, can really be another.
So is it that being friends and being in a relationship, brings about the wrong perception for some or that we super impose what we would do if it were us making a friend or continuing a friendship while in a relationship?
I am certainly looking forward to the feedback on this topic. It is something I am seriously interested in and love to discuss. Leave a comment with your thoughts on the subject!